But judge was is there no female assaults male charge? Oh judge why do police laugh at men who say they have been assaulted by their female friends?
http://www.odt.co.nz/your-town/dunedin/107682/help-violent-women
Family violence is not just a man's domain and more women are seeking help for their abusive tendencies.
Stopping Violence Dunedin (SVD) manager Lynne Baird said the organisation received at least one phone call a week from women wanting to do something about their violent tendencies.
Feedback from probation officers and Women's Refuge reiterated a need for help targeted at women.
New Zealand police statistics showed in about 5% of domestic violence cases the offender was a woman, but in reality the proportion was "bound to be" more, she said.
The "It's not OK" campaign had raised awareness about the different kinds of violence and abuse in society and prompted more women to realise their behaviour was classed as negative.
Unhealthy power and control tactics were not just about violence but included emotional and economic abuse as well as using sex as a means of coercion or threat, using children to get your way and blaming others for your actions.
"It's not just about her with the black eye," Ms Baird said.
In response to this, SVD created a women's education programme, which will be trialled in Dunedin next month.
Among other things, it will explore patterns of behaviour and highlight tools for living a life free of violence and abuse.
The sessions cover building self-esteem, setting safe boundaries, developing good communication skills and the impact of society on women.
It will also focus on the impact of violence on children and partners.
The programme is being developed with the support of the Department of Internal Affairs and a Lions Foundation donation enabled it to be provided free.
The programme starts on June 1, with sessions to be held on Tuesdays and Thursdays from 9.30am to 12.30pm.
ellie.constantine@odt.co.nz
I am just on my way out to Christchurch prison to visit an innocent father convicted to 4 years imprisonment on false allegations of sexual violation. I give him hope and keep his spirit positive. Sadly he was shafted by a corrupt justice system and a vicious man hating lesbian detective. Shame on our disgusting justice system.His trial was sickening to witness but who cares eh!
A woman drove a man to suicide by crying rape and forced a second innocent man to consider taking his life after falsely accusing him of a similar sex attack.
By Chris Brook
25th May 2010
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/
Despite being exposed in court as a serial liar, legal restrictions mean the 21-year-old woman can never be identified.
A jury took only 45 minutes to clear medical student Olumide Fadayomi, 27, of rape.
But several jurors at Sheffield Crown Court broke down in tears when the judge revealed the "victim" had a history of crying rape.
Judge Patrick Robertshaw launched a stinging attack on the Crown Prosecution Service for making Fadayomi stand trial.
He said: "The evidence did not, and was never going to, prove rape. The prime overriding consideration in the CPS's decision had been merely that the complainant wished the case to go ahead.
"It was little short of a craven abdication of responsibility for making an independent and fair-minded assessment of the case.
"It is quite astonishing these decisions are made by those who simply do not have experience of what happens in Crown Court because they never come into Crown Court.
"They sit behind desks and make decisions that result in this sort of trial taking place."
The judge revealed how 18 months earlier the same woman had made an allegation of rape.
He said the case never reached court because it was "lacking in credibility", but the accused man committed suicide "when facing that allegation".
After failing to have this first rape accused brought to court, the woman set about framing Fadayomi, a stranger she met in a nightclub.
The woman claimed Fadayomi attacked her in a house he shared in Walkley, Sheffield.
But a friend, who was with her that evening, told the court the woman danced and kissed Fadayomi, boasting: "I'm going to have his body tonight."
The woman later told her friend she planned to accuse the student of rape, saying: "He is not going to get away with it, I've got evidence this time."
Fadayomi told the jury the woman had agreed to sex. He said: "She never told me to stop and neither did she resist."
The student, from Nigeria, was doing a biomedical sciences course at the University of East London, but the incident happened in October when he went to Sheffield to do a 10-week music production course during a study break.
After the case Fadayomi recalled how the woman propositioned him by telling him she liked his "perfume" and that "she wouldn't mind having me that night".
They later returned to his house, where they had sex. Fadayomi then gave her £8 for a taxi and she left. He said he went out to buy food at 6am and police were waiting for him on his return.
Fadayomi said of his ordeal: "My life has been hell for the last seven months.
Male victims of domestic violence need campaigns and services: report
A groundbreaking report from Edith Cowan University (ECU) has found that male victims of domestic violence can suffer from a unique form of legal/administrative abuse previously unidentified in research, as well as experiencing most of the same impacts as female victims.
The Intimate Partner Abuse of Men report, to be launched this morning in Perth, found that “Male victims of intimate partner abuse and their children suffer a range of consequences, such as psychological distress (including disorders such as depression and anxiety disorders), suicidal ideation, impaired self-concept and loss of work.”
It found that male victims are often reluctant to disclose their experience of abuse or seek help because of their sometimes justified fears that they will not be believed, that they will not be assisted or will instead be blamed for the abuse.
The study recommends that government-funded public campaigns be conducted to raise awareness of domestic violence against men; that consideration should be given to providing publicly-funded services specifically for male victims; and that workers in health and welfare fields should be provided with training to assist them to recognise and respond effectively to male victims of domestic violence.
The study’s findings come after the release of statistics last year by the WA Department for Child Protection, showing that in 2007-08 women were responsible for more than three quarters of all substantiated child maltreatment.
Greg Andresen from the One in Three anti-violence campaign said “We know that one in three victims of family violence and abuse are male. This study confirms that these men have almost no services to help them, despite suffering from physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, financial and social abuse just like women victims.
“The study also discovered that some women abuse their male partners by manipulating legal and administrative resources such as taking out false restraining orders or not allowing the victim access to his children.”
In July 2009 the Federal Attorney-General asked the Australian Law Reform Commission to inquire into what improvements could be made to relevant family and domestic violence legal frameworks to protect the safety of women and their children. The One in Three campaign argues that this exclusion of male victims and their children is typical of government approaches to the issue of domestic violence which assume incorrectly that the vast majority of perpetrators are male and the vast majority of victims female.
Campaigners say that making a protection such as freedom from violence dependent on the victim’s sex violates some of the most fundamental principles of international human rights law.
Mr Andresen added, “Some will argue that domestic violence perpetrated by women is not a serious matter. However research overwhelmingly shows that coercion (control and domination) is a frequently cited reason by women for their own use of violence, and by male victims for their female partner’s use of violence.
“Other research confirms that women rarely use violence in self-defence. Self-defence is cited by women as the reason for their use of domestic violence including homicide in only a small minority of cases (between 5 and 20 per cent).
“Men are physically injured by female perpetrators, and often seriously, because women can do just as much harm with a weapon as men can, despite any differences in size or strength. And children suffer equally regardless of whether it’s Mum, Dad or both being violent.”
The One in Three campaign is calling upon state and federal governments and non-government service providers to heed the recommendations of the ECU study and provide services to all victims regardless of their sex. These include counselling and support services, accommodation services, help-lines and crisis response, and community education and prevention programmes.
MEDIA CONTACTS
Greg Andresen, One in Three spokesman, 0403 813 925, info@oneinthree.com.au
Dr Elizabeth Celi, Psychologist and Author, 0413 338 237, info@qualityliving.com.au
http://newyorknewsbreak.com/divorced-dads-tips-the-difference-between-parental-alienation-syndrome-mommy-manipulation-095049
Divorced Dads Tips: The Difference Between Parental Alienation Syndrome & Mommy Manipulation!
We’ve seen a number of cases over the years of Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) over the years. To be clear: It is not a recognized medical syndrome. And, it is often overused and inappropriately by divorced dads, it can torpedo their case fast simply because it is a simplistic overstatement of the true facts.
It’s a phrase now that is embedded into the legal speak that goes on in Family Courtrooms everywhere when access/visitation denial by anything from a mildly angry to an extremely malicious mother. And therein lies the problem. By not characterizing the seriousness of the problems appropriately and accurately, a divorced dad loses credibility when he doesn’t distinguish between:
(a) Manipulation and/or alienation;
(b) Moderate, severe, extreme, fanatical forms of manipulation;
(c) Moderate, severe, extreme, fanatical forms of alienation.
Accurately portraying through evidence which pigeonhole your child’s symptoms seem to suggest tends to demonstrate reasonableness on the fathers part, which naturally confers credibility on that evidence because it does not come across as a distortion or exaggeration of the facts.
When a malicious mother ramps up her campaign of hatred to the point that the children are seized with an OVERWHELMING irrational fear of the father following separation and/or divorce PAS becomes a distinct possibility, but it is unlikely beforehand.
So what is overwhelming fear?
It does not include any fear that is superficial. The typical kind displayed by many children who either can and/or can’t explain their fear, but don’t act in a manner consistent with those fears.
Here’s an example of consistency that borders on fanatical: A child who is cowering in the corner, even when fully protected in a supervised access center with social workers, still refuses to try and have a relationship with their dad.
Usually children such as these have been so poisoned by a mother ingratiating the child into their world view through parentification: The process where a child is made a confident of a mother and where sharing of how dangerous daddy is takes place in a sophisticated and subtle way that is far beyond a child’s abilities to understand, appreciate and fend off.
At the simplest level, manipulation that is not constantly sustained lacks depth, because it lacks consistent reinforcement at every opportunity possible. I would characterize this as the typical tactic of an overwrought mother not necessarily wanting revenge, but who is venting inappropriately through involving their child in their tirades and rants.
Malicious Mommy Manipulation Syndrome begins here and ends when a mother is including hatred and anger with sufficient force to influence a child towards PAS.
I’ve used the above framework to discern for myself what level of manipulation and/or actual alienation is taking place. Alienation always relies upon some form of HUGE lie told to frighten the child such as: your Dad will kidnap you and you will never ever see me again. Then when Dad is tired of you, he will abandon you God knows where. Then some stranger will find you and kill you.
That would terrify any child. And that is where real PAS begins from my perspective.
I remember a conference we had for the National Shared Parenting Association about 10 years ago where there was a young woman, she was about 21 years old, came to speak with us after we did our opening remarks. She was in absolute tears. Her mother had told her that her father was a monster.
This lady was in her mid 20s and for most of her childhood into early teenage and early adulthood, she was told her dad is a monster. I guess when she went out on her own she mustered up enough courage to try and find him and she did. Here was the real shocker. He is a wonderful man, which basically means she was betrayed by her mother. We told her: “You know you are very brave and good for you that you mustered up the courage to go and find your dad and you are reconnecting with him.”
The biggest challenge she is going to face now is learning how to forgive her mother, if that is even still possible. She might not be able to. This is the cost of what happens in divorce. Sometimes children are forced to make a choice between their parents. No child should ever have to do that.
It is not appropriate to wage war over your kids but it is appropriate to wage peace. The best advice that we can give you is to choose happiness over perfection. You and your kids will have a better time for it and likely a better person as a result.
When you face a really difficult situation that seems as if your kids are manipulated or alienated remember this formula when describing it to the Family Court Judge:
Is what you are seeing exhibited in your child:
(a) Manipulation and/or alienation;
(b) Moderate, severe, extreme, fanatical forms of manipulation;
(c) Moderate, severe, extreme, fanatical forms of alienation.
And match your evidence closely to what you describe.
Remember all manipulation and alienation is wrong, but the key to resolving it in Family Court is vigorously exposing it accurately. That’s the beginning of any Family Court Game Plan where these are the main issues facing your children.
Finally, be patient. This form of abuse is difficult to detect, and to prove. It takes time. However having a management system for the diagnosis of the problem will often lead to its solution.
Life is so hard for a shafted family court male client. The corrupt family court always runs with what the mother of the children says. They don’t ever want to view written evidence from government agencies that could prove the allegations made about him to be both false and malicious. Oh no, they will not listen to the entire population of a small West Coast town, who can easily vouch for his credibility as a loving and caring father of four.
Police don’t care about false allegations as they enjoy persecuting a middle aged white man, easy target for the filth bullies.They don't want to know the truth. Sadly police beat you up every time you are hauled into a South Island station. When they struggle to crack you, they throw in the round cell for a week, and then ship you off for a 3 month Christmas holiday in the loony bin (forensic ward)
Dishonest maternal family members like Nick Yeatman employ a dozen or so men so they can strip your house of everything you ever owned. You try in vain to stop your possessions vanishing, but police laugh and beat you, then arrest you.
Lawyers lie so they can extend litigation on for many heartbreaking years.
Psychologists write up huge reports that are a total load of crap. Creeps like the report writer John Watson hound your mother too death. Be warned Watson justice is coming.
Judges don’t care as like police they can spot an easy target on legal aid. How can you sleep at night Judge Strettell?
False allegations of child abuse and domestic violence are the ingredients needed to get your house burnt down.
How does one rebuild a shattered life?
Not a day goes by that my heart bleeds for the love I once enjoyed with my children.